7 Ways to Earn the Right to Be Heard
The right to be heard is earned. ‘
Forget leading when no one is listening.
I was asked, “How do I deal with someone who isn’t listening to me?”
Earn the Right to Be Heard
You earn the right to be heard with your ears.
#1. Stop interrupting. Powerful people often interrupt. (Click here to learn how to interrupt successfully.)
#2. Relax when you listen. Manners are inconvenient for people in a rush-and you’re always running to the next thing to do. When time is short, say, “I only have two minutes, is that enough time?” When two minutes are up, explain that you need to go. Offer time later if appropriate.
#3. Invite people to talk about themselves. They’ll listen to you if you’re open to them.
You earn the right to be heard by saying something worth hearing.
#4. Gain a reputation for wisdom. A sage is curious. Rise above immediate issues. Ask about their intentions and goals. Focus on long-term principles. Be humble, kind, and forward-facing.
#5. Ask questions before making statements. Try:
- What would you like to know?
- What’s important to you?
- What are you trying to accomplish?
- What do you know?
- What don’t you know?
- What have you tried?
#6. Release the burden of knowledge. Fixers are frustrating. It takes discipline to pause when you “know” the answer. Listen longer than feels comfortable, you could be wrong.
#7. Avoid over-confidence. Be willing to change. Alan Alda said, “Real listening is a willingness to let the other person change you.”
Quick tips:
#1. Begin with the conclusion. Add explanations after.
#2. Never lie.
#3. Be realistic and optimistic.
How might leaders earn the right to be heard?
Which of the above ideas could you practice today?
Still curious:
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6 Ways to Communicate Like a Leader—and Be Heard – Texas Conference for Women
